New Alternative to The Orthodox Monopoly on Marriage in Israel
I am so proud of The Masorti Movement in Israel! They have launched a major campaign promoting themselves as an alternative to The Orthodox Monopoly on Marriage in Israel. As you can read in the press release, our movement in Israel has detected something that has been going on and was un-addressed for so many years.
When young Israelis that have no contact or connection with Orthodoxy want to get married, many, really MANY of them, opt out by going to Cyprus and other countries and having just a civil ceremony. Something had to be done and now IT IS BEING DONE.
In a media blitz launched Sunday, June 15 that directly challenges the Orthodox monopoly on weddings in Israel, the Masorti movement, affiliated with the Conservative in the United States and worldwide, is making an appeal to Israeli couples increasingly disenchanted with the established system. An estimated 20 percent or more of Israelis who each year choose to live together as couples do so outside the framework of the of the Office of the Chief Rabbinate, either by not participating in any wedding ceremony or by limiting themselves to a civil ceremony in Cyprus or elsewhere.
The print ads and commercials on radio and Internet sites direct readers and listeners to a website set up for the campaign. They are already generating results. In just three days, the Masorti movement office in Jerusalem reported more than 25,000 unique hits to the website and dozens of phone calls from interested couples.
At the same time, the campaign has raised the ire of Shas. The Chairman of Shas in the Knesset, Yaakov Margi, petitioned the Israel Broadcasting Authority to ban the Masorti campaign from the airwaves. In a letter to Mordechai Sklar, IBA’s general director, MK Yaakov Margi charged that the Masorti movement “knowingly misleads and perpetrates a campaign of fraud.” He further claimed to be writing on behalf of “those who are spiritually lost and would not want to find themselves ending up in unseemly places.”
MK Ophir Pines-Paz (Labor) responded in his own letter to the IBA that Masorti “faithfully combines tradition and progress” and suggested the Shas letter should be buried as “a foolish attempt at censorship.”
“Our young people are being driven away from traditional marriage ceremonies by the difficulty of dealing with the Office of the Chief Rabbinate,” observed Masorti Executive Director Yizhar Hess, outlining the goals of the campaign. “Under the guidelines of the ‘Masorti chuppah,’ couples may customize their ceremonies to meet their personal needs without sacrificing halakhic requirements and the connection to Jewish tradition. It is important to make all Israelis aware that this religious alternative exists.”
Visitors to the Wedding Game website are led through a series of choices (venue, invitations to special guests, food, etc.) that concludes with an option to select a Masorti chuppah. The Jewish legal requirements are explained in detail before couples are urged to contact the Masorti movement for more information (couples are advised, for example, to have a civil ceremony performed outside of Israel to supplement the Masorti chuppah, so that their marriages will be legally recognized by the State). They are informed that if they want to divorce, they will need a get. They are also encouraged to sign a pre-nuptial agreement which sets forth monthly financial penalties for any party refusing to free the other in the event of a divorce. This pre-nuptial agreement would be subject to the authority of the civil courts.”
Rabbi Tamar Elad-Appelbaum, director of Masorti’s Wedding Initiative, is delighted with the campaign thus far. She described the movement’s collaboration with the Israeli marketing agency, Loop Interactive, as “an innovative creative strategy, brilliantly executed, to reach today’s young Israeli couples who are seeking to renew ties to their Jewish tradition and heritage in accordance with their personal values, which are open to the realities of modern life.”
Masorti’s clever new online “Wedding Game” uses colorful, animated graphics and an interactive format to convey the personalized, contemporary approach to wedding ceremonies that Masorti offers prospective brides and grooms. Couples learn they can opt to have a traditional, fully halakhic ceremony that simultaneously accommodates pluralistic practice, performed by a rabbi who will meet with them more than once prior to the actual ceremony to create a personal bond.
The Masorti campaign communicates to Israeli couples that they can have a fully traditional wedding, but one that is also pluralistic. The wedding ceremony may incorporate special touches of personal interest to the couple, including an egalitarian approach.
You can listen to a radio interview with the Rabbi who initiated this here.
© Rabbi Felipe Goodman, all rights reserved.
June 21st, 2008 at 11:37 pm
Interesting, but it is not necessary to leave the country for the civil ceremony. About 40 years ago I heard of a couple who had an orthodox ceremony, which they considered the civil ceremony, and then had a Conservative (now Masorti) ceremony, to which they invited their guests and which they considered their religious ceremony
June 22nd, 2008 at 7:51 am
Hillel; I agree, but the problem now as compared to 40 years ago is that people just don’t want to go through the whole complicated process that happens before the wedding which is 80% of the painful situation. That is why now they are leaving the country by droves to get married.
June 24th, 2008 at 1:08 pm
Unfortunately, I am not well educated on this issue. I am curious why civil ceremonies are not available in Israel.
June 24th, 2008 at 1:22 pm
Heide;
In Israel there is no separation of Church and State when it comes to marriages. You don’t have the option of going to a Justice of The Peace like we have here in The United States or in most of The Western World. Unfortunately Israel’s official religion is NOT Judaism as a whole but ORTHODOXY, that means that only Orthodox Rabbis may officially marry Jews in Israel and have the ceremony registered as official by The State of Israel. Any Wedding performed by a Conservative or Reform in the United States is automatically recognized by The State of Israel because of international treaties with The United States and because when we sign a marriage license as officiants in The U.S. the marriage is officially registered by The State. Israel recognizes the Civil Marriage License we sign but The Orthodox Rabbinate still won’t recognize the religious wedding.
Israel MUST CHANGE the way in which Weddings are done! There is absolutely NO REASON other than politics and the greed of power as to why this happens. The political system is such that in order to be able to have the majority in The Knesset, The Secular Political Parties often ally themselves with Ultra Orthodox Political Parties that take the entire country hostage in issues such as these.
June 24th, 2008 at 4:31 pm
Wow, I’m a little bit speechless. I cannot imagine how frustrating this must be for Israelis. How ironic that a life event which is meant to strengthen our families and traditions is actually causing deep divides, heart break, and resentment through the actions of those who should be embracing the joy of a Jewish marriage.